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"A few months ago, one of my friends invited me to his small birthday party
with four other friends. It was planned that we would go eat in a restaurant
and go to a bar after that. [Friend] is gay, and the other guests were also
gay, bisexual, or pansexual men. I was the only woman (who is also straight)
there. I didn’t really mind this; his friends were all nice and cool people,
and it was his birthday, so he could invite whoever he wanted to.
After the delicious dinner we had, we headed to a gay bar. I have never been to
one before, but I was curious to see how much it differed from “regular” bars.
It was pretty nice, to be honest. The vibe was really great, and everyone
really enjoyed their time there. Many men gave me compliments on how nice my
hair or dress was, which made me feel kind of awkward but also happy since I
wasn’t a person who received compliments a ton. [Friend] seemed to have a
blast, which made me really happy, too.
After some time and some drinks, the men wanted to go dancing, and [Friend]
asked me to join them. I refused since I was starting to get tired and needed a
little pause. He understood but gave me his phone and asked me to take some
pictures and videos of them on the dance floor.
A few minutes later, a group of three men entered the bar, headed straight to
the bar, and started hitting on some women. I didn’t think much of it at first.
I’ve heard about straight men going to gay bars to pick up the women there, but
I didn’t really expect to witness it that evening. When the men were rejected,
they were mad, but they let the women be and ordered drinks.
I ignored them for a while and filmed and photographed my friends. Then, the
men seemed to notice me and started speaking to me.
I was pretty intimidated by this since it wasn’t only one, but three men almost
cornering me on my bar stool, and I like to have personal space. They asked me
normal things at first — what I do for a living, where I’m from, etc. I
answered some of the questions, but I eventually told them that I wasn’t
interested and wanted to be left alone again, as respectfully as I could.
They didn’t seem happy with this."
Via Kevin O'Brien.
Cheers,
*** Xanni ***
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mailto:xanni@xanadu.net Andrew Pam
http://xanadu.com.au/ Chief Scientist, Xanadu
https://glasswings.com.au/ Partner, Glass Wings
https://sericyb.com.au/ Manager, Serious Cybernetics
