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"For most of last year, I worked on and promoted my
New York Times
bestselling (I’m gonna keep leaning into that until it gets super obnoxious,
and then keep going to a little bit) memoir,
Still Just A Geek. A huge part
of my story is my survival of child abuse and exploitation, living with CPTSD
and the depression and anxiety that accompany it.
So it follows that for most of last year, I was picking at a barely-healed
wound. When the promotion cycle wrapped up, I gave myself permission to just
withdraw from public life as much as I wanted and needed to, so I could rest
and regain my hit points. While I was resting, that wound I’d been picking at
got infected and made me … not extremely sick, but sicker than I’ve felt in a
long long time. So I did what you do when you’re sick: I went to the doctor,
and I’ve been doing the work every day to get better.
We got the infection cleaned up, but the wound is still there. It still hurts.
Some days it hurts more than others, others I hardly notice it. But it’s there.
It’ll probably be there for the rest of my life, because the people who gave it
to me refuse to be part of healing it. So I’m doing the work to heal it the
best I can, let the scab do its thing, and eventually become a scar that I
can’t feel. I‘d rather have no wound, and no scar, but I when I look at it, I
know that it represents all the work I’ve done (and continue to do) to heal
myself.
I haven’t wanted to talk about this at all because all those months of being
vulnerable in public, revisiting the most painful and traumatic moments of my
life, was a lot. I needed and deserve quiet, private time for myself to
recover.
All of that is to give some context to what I’m about to share with you."
Cheers,
*** Xanni ***
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mailto:xanni@xanadu.net Andrew Pam
http://xanadu.com.au/ Chief Scientist, Xanadu
https://glasswings.com.au/ Partner, Glass Wings
https://sericyb.com.au/ Manager, Serious Cybernetics
